Sometimes, it just feels like life isn’t on your side.
No matter what you do or how you do it, you feel like you’re the only one fighting in your corner, and nothing is going your way, and nobody is there for you. The truth is, we’ve all been there at some point in our lives. Maybe one, maybe twice, maybe too many times for us to keep track of. But, that’s life.
It’s easy to get sucked into the negativity that you feel like is engulfing you, however in truth, all this does is make you focus on only the negatives, and not the good things that are happening around you too. When you are in a negative mindset, your focus shifts to seeing the worst outcome of a situation, all the ways things can go wrong, and can bring a serious downer to your mood. Sometimes, all you need to do is change this mindset in order to make a difference.
Calm your mind.
When life seems to suck, it’s easy to allow your mind to spiral things into oblivion, and before you know it feel overwhelmed and out of control. Calming your mind and your outlook can settle this anxiety. Mindfulness is a great way to do this. This is the concept of being completely in the present moment, and focusing on what is happening right now. [If you’d like to read more about mindfulness and how to be more mindful in your every day life, click here!] By being more mindful in your life, you will be less inclined to look at only the negative aspects of it, and will instead be in the moment, and take each moment as it comes.
There are many techniques to calm your mind. One of my favourite ways is to think of a really calm and tranquil setting.
Stop making excuses.
The ‘why me?’ attitude can sometimes be more damaging than the thing itself. Blaming yourself and belittling your life is only going to escalate the negativity you’re already feeling, and will only gravitate more negativity to you. Acceptance of whatever has got you into this whirlwind of emotion, rather, is the key thing to focus on whenever life seems to suck. Some things are just out of your control and there’s nothing you can do about it, so accepting whatever has happened in your life is one of the most crucial ways to move on with whatever is bothering you, and can be a spiritual exercise if it becomes personally overwhelming. In reality, the initial problem probably doesn’t suck half as much as you’re letting on, so by stopping the excuse-mindset, you can allow yourself to move past it more effectively.
Sometimes things have to get worse before they can get better.
Keep calm through the storm. Just because it’s bad now, it doesn’t mean it’ll be bad forever. As I mentioned above, it’s easy to get tied into the whirlwind and believe that life is just getting worse, but if you go down, you have to go back up. I’ve always believed that life is a bit like an arrow; sometimes it pulls you back so it can catapult you into something amazing. Trust it. For all you know, the most amazing thing could be right around the corner, whether it’s a promotion, someone you really care about, or just some simple good luck.
Rome wasn’t built in a day. You won’t be either.
Following from the previous point, life isn’t going to resolve itself in a period of 24 hours. Some things take time. It might feel like you’ve been ‘pulled back’ for a really long time, but don’t give up! Fighting the negativity with a positive attitude can be draining, but it can also be so rewarding. If you are able to maintain it whilst life sorts itself out again, then it is likely that the habit of positivity will stick, and you will be able to implement it to all other aspects of your life. It takes time to allow yourself to develop, and going through hard times will only make you stronger.
Build up from small changes.
Sometimes a bit of change is all you need. This can be daunting and can launch you out of your comfort zone but it could be exactly what you need. Besides, life is no more than ordinary when you only live within your comfort zone! Making small changes is an ideal way to broaden your horizons, as it isn’t overwhelming as you are able to build on things one step at a time. If life isn’t going your way, whatever the reason may be, break up your next task into smaller, easier to manage steps, and focus on achieving each one. Rewarding yourself for small changes is one step of overcoming a negative mindset.
Fake a better attitude!
This one might seem bizarre, but emotions and body language is contagious. If you force yourself to smile, you’ll start to feel better, and whatever you’ve been allowing yourself to be down about won’t seem so bad. It has actually been scientifically proven that smiling releases chemicals to the brain, including dopamine. Dopamine is a hormone that increases levels of happiness, so much so that lower levels of it has been connected to mental ill health like depression. By forcing yourself to smile, however bad life may seem, can release these chemicals regardless, and instantly uplift your mood!
No matter what experience you are going through, there is always an option to be grateful for what you’ve got. Even when you go through the bad points of life, the positive is that they have taught you struggle. On the face of it, this seems like a negative, however going through struggle actually gives you strength to overcome it, and to face times like it again with the knowledge of how to cope with it. After the struggle has passed, and you look back at it with a clearer mind, you’ll be grateful for the life experience, trust me!
There are often more important things in life, and when it comes to gratitude, they often get swept under the rug. Sometimes we worry about the things that are trivial, and forget to look at the bigger picture. If we have our health, a roof over our head, food to eat and strong relationships with others, then in reality we have a lot to be thankful for.
For tips on how to be more grateful in your life, click here.
Finally, remember that you’re not alone.
Whatever it is that is making you feel as though life totally sucks, remember that you’re not the only one going through a situation such as this. That could be helpful or it could be unhelpful to you, but I personally find it easier to deal with a situation when I know that I’m not the only person who feels my pain.
There will likely be support networks around, and strong bonds with family and friends can encourage you to lift your spirits!
Do you have any other tips on how to keep your spirits high when life seems to suck? I’d love to hear your thoughts!